You can’t believe it. That person at work did that thing. Again. You need to vent and so you go in search of another person who will be right there with you agreeing about that person’s horrible, inconsiderate behavior.
I know, it’s more difficult to speak up and point out to the offender (nicely) the effect their behavior has on you. “Janice, when you don’t get you stuff to me by the deadline, I can’t finish the newsletter on time and it goes out late instead of on Tuesday, as our subscribers expect.”
If your complaint isn’t based on someone handling a task in a different way than you’d do it, then you can decide if it is worth the effort to ask the other person to change their behavior. The next time a complaint sits on your tongue, instead of venting to a friend or coworker, tell them that you’d like some ideas for ways to solve the complaint.
Susan Caplan McCarthy
I'm Susan, a writer and teacher developing a second career as a Decluttering Coach.