Another non-tangible, odd task. But is it that odd? Are you holding onto a regret for something you did, or, perhaps likelier, didn’t do? We can’t go back in time and accept (or take back) a marriage proposal or a decision about school or a job offer or any of the thousands of decisions you’ve made through the course of your life.
Write out your regret (this could be a couple of words that sum up the situation or a pages long stream-of-consciousness rage about what didn’t happen and what could have happened).
Then, burn the paper in an indoor or outdoor fireplace or shred the item while thinking or saying aloud, “I release this regret.”
Obviously, this is a symbolic gesture and if it doesn’t make a difference, consider going to a professional with whom you can talk about this hurt. Decide whether you just want to be heard or whether you want guidance for taking some sort of action.
Only if this task doesn’t apply to you: Eliminate an item that bothers you because it doesn’t do what it’s supposed to do.
Susan Caplan McCarthy
I'm Susan, a writer and teacher developing a second career as a Decluttering Coach.