by Susan McCarthy
I’ll probably never post pictures of my home as an example of what ‘organized’ looks like. And it comes down to my husband and I having very different definitions of organized. I prefer bare, open spaces while Mac thinks that is boring.
He feels that stuff gives guests interesting things to look at and talk about (and yes, his collections have prompted many conversations with visitors). So, is it useless to discuss decluttering with a spouse when you know (or are fairly certain) they have no interest in decluttering? No.
Decluttering when your spouse doesn’t want to sort through their stuff isn’t easy. And your efforts might not help them see the benefits of cleared spaces. But does that mean that you shouldn’t try to bring order to your home? No. Even if you and your significant other don’t share the same definition of “clutter,” you’ll still see benefits to the decluttering you do.
Avoid Demanding that Everyone “Get Rid of All Their Crap”
It can be easy to find your eye landing on your spouse’s stuff (and, if you have kids, their stuff too, whether they are two or twenty). Chances are you know you need to declutter your stuff as well, but you don’t want to be the only one doing the work, giving everyone else more space to put their stuff.
However, trying to kickstart the process with black-and-white demands will unlikely endear you to anyone you live with.
Instead, you can start by either having a conversation with your spouse about your vision for your home or starting to decluttering your stuff. You probably have a sense of your significant other’s attitude toward decluttering, so that can guide your next actions.
If you mention decluttering and one of the first things out of their mouth is, “don’t touch my stuff,” then start with your stuff. However, if you catch them complaining about losing items in the house or the inconvenience of all the stuff in a particular spot in the house, then you have an opening to discuss the benefits of decluttering.
Hi, I’m Susan.
And I’m here to help you clear the things cluttering your life so you can do and have more of what’s important to you.
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