by Susan McCarthy
You can adapt the techniques you’d use to declutter your home to declutter the mind and clear the thoughts swirling through your head.
A week ago, was my tenth wedding anniversary. Mac is on oxygen 24/7 so going to restaurant to celebrate was out of the question. We picked up fresh seafood the day before which was a good thing because it snowed on our anniversary. Nearly a half foot of wet snow. At the end of October. We joke about New England weather, but snow in October isn’t that common.
Mac said he’d cook the seafood for lunch and dinner. It was my anniversary, and it was snowing, so I decided to take the day off and read and crochet. For me, this is decadence.
But, throughout the day, the thought of different tasks kept tugging at my attention. I kept brushing them away with a “not now.” By the next day I couldn’t help but think that we were on the cusp of the end of the year and, yes, there were things I wanted to get done – not only for A Less Cluttered Life but also around the house. And I wanted to see what plans I could make to see friends and family before it got too cold to sit on a porch and chat.
Everything was clamoring for my attention. I needed to declutter my mind.
This is what I did. I hope you like extended metaphors because I’m going to help you declutter your mind the same way I’d help you declutter your home.
How to Declutter Your Mind
If you said that you wanted to declutter your home, one of the first things I’d ask as a professional organizer is – Why? Why is this important to you? What do you hope to get from this process? How will this make you feel?
Now, I know that you’re thinking about your answers to those questions, but bringing in some new thoughts is like trying to add clothing to a crowded closet or books to shelves that look like a well-played game of Tetris, all those shapes fitting in so there’s no gaps between the books.
Grab some paper and a pen (you’ll be using it in another step as well). Now, write out your answers to those questions – Why is decluttering your brain clutter important to you? What do you hope to get from this process? How will this make you feel?
Your brain connects more deeply with handwritten thoughts than those that are typed, that’s why we’re doing the pen and paper thing.
Gather Your Thoughts to One Place
Now that you have a clearer sense of why you want to get off the hamster wheel, the next organizing task we’d do is to gather the clutter. Usually, I’d have you focus on one category of physical items, but that’s a little more difficult with thoughts.
To be prepared for thoughts that may bounce all over the place, from topic-to-topic, take a few sheets of paper and label each one with a general category in your life. Some ideas:
At the top of the page, list one category on each sheet. You might start out with a few pages and then add more sheets as you realize you have a cluster of thoughts swirling about an area of your life.
Next, list everything on your mind associated with these areas or categories. Don’t edit, drag it all out of your skull. If you’re thinking, “Well, I won’t be traveling home for the holidays this year, so I don’t need to write anything about that.” Chances are you’ll be connecting with friends and family in some way. Instead of writing “travel home” consider listing “connect with those back home.”
You’ll be shifting from page-to-page, gathering thoughts so they’re on the same page with thoughts about similar tasks.
These thoughts could be items for your to-do list, goals, ideas, wishful thinking, phone calls you need to make, errands you need to run, items for your shopping list. Get it all down; don’t think about how you’ll get these things done or when – the goal here is to simply gather like with like.
If you don’t capture every thought, you can always go back and add things later. Even if you captured every thoughts scrambling through your mind in this moment, chances are once you move onto another task, you’ll end up with more things that you’ll want to do.
Let’s face it, your brain keeps running over some of the same thoughts because it’s afraid that if it doesn’t remind you, you’ll forget about it and since you aren’t working on that task RIGHT NOW, then you’ve obviously forgot about it, so here’s that thought again. You’re welcome.
Write it down so when the thought arises, you can say, “I already got that on my list.”
Sort through Your Thoughts
If you were decluttering physical objects, after you gathered them together, you’d start grouping similar items. By creating a few lists, you’ve done this step while gathering your thoughts.
Read through each list, acknowledging each task. Is this something that needs to get done and if so, will you do it in the next couple of weeks? Circle or put a star next to these tasks. Transfer these items to your planner so they’ll get done in the next couple of weeks.
Next, acknowledge the tasks, projects, and goals that you won’t get around to for another month or so. If you’re thinking, “But, wait, I really wanted to do that now,” well, okay, plan when you’ll do it. Don’t just think that you’ll fit it in or get it done somehow, attach a date to it. If you’re balking at that thought, then another month it is.
Think of this as having a tall stack of books on your bedside table and sorting through them so you’re leaving the books you plan to read in the next couple of weeks there and moving the others to your bookcase. You aren’t getting rid of the books, just moving them so they are less distracting, and you feel less stressed because you’ve acknowledged that you’re not focusing on them right now.
Next to the different tasks on your lists, mark down “2021” or “first quarter 2021” or “May 2021,” etc. when you can. This is like boxing up your out of season clothing. You aren’t getting rid of these things, but you also realize that you don’t need to look at sundresses hanging in your closet in the middle of the winter.
Consider if some of the tasks on your list belong to someone else. Maybe you want to remind someone to do something or you can delegate a task. Write down these names next to the appropriate items on your lists. Move them onto your planner as a reminder to delegate or check on the task.
If there are activities that you don’t want to do even though at one point you thought you did, acknowledge that you’re done with that prospect by crossing it off your list. Just as giving away things makes it clear that you’re done with those things, crossing a task off your list allows you to say that you’re done with it. (If you have paraphernalia associated with that project, you can declutter it to emphasize that you are done with the idea of teaching yourself how to knit or doing yoga.)
If you’re having difficulty thinking this through, go back to those questions you answered. Why are you doing this? Why are you doing any of these tasks?
Give Your Tasks a Home
After you sort through physical items, you’d them put them away, giving them a “home” in organizer-ese. You’ll do the same with the tasks that you realize you want to accomplish before the end of the year. Grab your planner and assign time to work on these projects. Time is the home for tasks.
Again, don’t just think, “I’ll fit it in.” At the very least, assign tasks to a week, you can fine-tune where in the week you’ll do a task when then week gets closer.
Are you noticing that you don’t have the time for these tasks? Just as you would do while organizing objects in your home, you need to eliminate more things, or, in this case, lower your expectations as to what you’ll really manage to accomplish.
Just as a space cram-packed with stuff is stressful to look at, a schedule that’s over-planned is stressful to experience. You may need to move more things into storage (aka, the next month, quarter, or year).
Plan Your Tasks
This stage is like fine-tuning how things get organized in their designated location. For example, deciding to set out a basket for collecting the day’s incoming mail or hanging a pegboard so you can sort and display your necklaces.
After you assign a task to a particular week, you’ll then need to fit it into a block of time. You may find yourself shuffling around some tasks that you feel committed to accomplishing.
Organizing your time has a lot in common with organizing stuff – you want things to fit, but not too tightly, a little wiggle room offers the opportunity for possibility.
Maintain Your Order
A lot of people figure that decluttering is the challenging part. It isn’t. After you organize your stuff or your time, you need to maintain this order. This can be difficult with tasks, particularly if you find it difficult to accurately assess how much time you’ll need to do a task. You can see the solidity of a drawer or shelf – if you try to smoosh too much stuff into the space then the drawer won’t close, or things will fall off the shelf.
But time is more fluid and while you may feel that you can fit a task into your schedule, you’re likely eliminating something else that was already planned.
At the end of the day, review what got done and what didn’t. It’s nice to think that we’ll just play catch up and get everything done, but that rarely works. Along with an end of the day review, do another one at the end of the week.
If this was an average week (no emergencies) and things didn’t get done, take a moment to reflect on your expectations. Do tasks take more time (space on your calendar) than you thought they would?
Just as adding a shelving unit with well-labeled bins may seem to take care of organizing a bunch of stuff, those shelves still claim space in your home. Trying to manage more tasks than you have the time and energy for, claims space from your life.
Organize Your Thoughts and Get Something Done
Start out by gathering your thoughts and sorting them into groups so you can compare similar tasks. Can you fit all this stuff into the next few weeks or month? Probably not. Sort your tasks into “boxes” labeled “next year” or “spring” or “April” so you can see what you really want to get done in the next few weeks.
Take those tasks and assign them a home in your planner. If you notice that things aren’t getting done, declutter a few more tasks from your calendar.
Then, review how things are working out. Review more often than you may think – at the end of each day and each week. It’s easier to catch a bit of declutter today than an overwhelming mess a month from now.
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Susan, chief (and only) organized squirrel at A Less Cluttered Life, pursues learning, practicing, and sharing information about the everyday habits that can lead to living a better life.